Month: August 2020

The Second of Firsts – My First Concert

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My first concert was January 16, 1987 at the Hartford Civic Center. I was just shy of 8 years old. My family had gone to watch the Hartford Hawks play Canisius College, and after the basketball game, the court was removed, a stage was erected, and then Smokey Robinson graced us with his talents. How did I remember that date? I didn’t. You’d be amazed what you can find on the World Wide Web.

I’ve also been to a number of outdoor concerts with my parents. A lot of them were part of Cigna’s Sunset Sounds summer concert series in Bloomfield, CT. There were huge fields outlined with speakers and filled with picnickers listening and dancing to the music. We never sat too close to the stage, so I don’t remember much about who was performing, but I do remember walking close enough to see Crystal Gayle’s hair sweeping the floor one of those evenings.

My first concert without my parents was when I was in 8th grade. Two friends and I got dropped off at the Bushnell in Hartford to see the Black Crowes. It was awesome! Chris Robinson was wearing crushed green velvet bell-bottoms with a lace up crotch and a white shirt that is best described as something a pirate would wear. I remember wondering why people were burning incense during the show. It was another year or so before I realized that incense wasn’t what I was smelling.

The Bushnell is also where I saw my first Broadway musical. Cats was on one of its US tours in the 80s. I wasn’t actually supposed to go. Mom and two of my sisters had tickets to the show in May of 1987. They were heading in while my dad and I were supposed to go do something else together (I’m not sure what that was, but ice cream was probably involved). I think I had a look on my face that said something like, “Boy, I bet they’re going to have a lot of fun, and I think I would enjoy it, too,” because my dad promptly approached a scalper and bought two tickets for me and him. My mom and sisters had floor seats, while he and I sat in the front row of the balcony. It was magical and I’m grateful for my dad’s intuition. Fast forward to June 7, 2019, and my 7 year-old daughter and I are sitting in the front row of the balcony watching Cats at the Durham Performing Arts Center.

“I remember a time I knew what happiness was. Let the memory live again.”

The First of Firsts – My First Flight

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This is the first in what will be a series of firsts.

I ran a summer camp for the past seven weeks, and one of the ice breakers we played was “Never Have I Ever.” This is a great game to stimulate your memory and go back in time. The kids responded “Never” or “Have” to events like riding in a limo, eating food off the floor, and being sent to the principal’s office. The kids all wanted to share their stories, which were usually pretty hilarious, and their sharing revived quite a few stories of the silly stuff I have done. So now and in future posts I’ll share some of my firsts, in no particular order.

In 6th grade I took my first flight. I was traveling to visit my friend whose family had a house on Chic’s Beach along the Chesapeake Bay. While there, my friend and I decided to steal a cigarette out of her grandmother’s purse, run what felt like a mile from the house into a wooded area on the beach, and smoke our first cigarette together. It was a menthol. I remember being totally freaked out that we were going to get in trouble, but I also remember giggling uncontrollably.

I’m sitting here thinking I need to apologize or explain or give excuses or point out that it wasn’t my idea, but that would just make the whole experience different from what it should be. And what was it? It was fun. And I’m not sorry, I have no regrets.

I think a lot of emphasis is put on firsts. First word, first step, first tooth, first tooth lost, first haircut, and fast-forward to first date, first kiss. We want to remember them, so they need to be memorable. The trouble with that is we can become very disappointed if they don’t turn out the way we hoped, or if our stories don’t measure up.

And we also want our firsts to be first; I started walking before you, or I started playing soccer at a younger age than you. And then everything becomes a race, a competition.

When we played the game with the kids, we had to create new rules that involved raising hands and waiting to be called on if they wanted to share because we got caught up in a cycle of one-upping. The point of the game was to get to know one another, but everyone was shouting out their stories at the same time, and no one was listening to each other. They were excited to share, but it was also as if they had something to prove, and I’m not entirely sure why that is.

If I could go back in time, I would put more emphasis on the ‘who’ than the ‘how’ for my firsts. I think that as long as you’re with the people who you share love with in the moment, the memory will be a good one. Then, if you continue to surround yourself with loved ones, there’s no competition, just sharing your lives with each other. Part of what makes a moment worth remembering is who you were with at that time. And another part is to remind you how you got here.

What are the firsts that you remember?

Setting Up Camp, Part 2

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Back in May I made a promise to my daughter that I would bring camp to her since her summer camp had been cancelled. It took some time to plan and prep, but this is what we did:

The week that she was registered to attend had the theme of “Christmas in July,” so while she was sleeping I strung colored lights along the ceiling of her bedroom, hung a gift-filled stocking on her closet door, and sprinkled individually wrapped candies across her furnishings. In the morning, I did rouse her with reveille, but then a Christmas playlist jingled its way into the room. We sang along as she opened her stocking that was filled with gimp and dollar store trinkets.

She was so excited to get the day started, and filled with candy, so we skipped breakfast and went straight into her first activity: baking. She said brownies and cupcakes were always offered at camp as desserts, so she helped me make both.

Next came one of my favorite camp activities: leather working. We moistened leather strap bracelets, stamped them with designs, then stained and sheened them.

Considering the theme, I wanted to include a Christmas craft, so we made waterless snow globes. I bought my first glue gun for this craft, so I feel like a full fledged member of the crafting world now. We glued small foam squares into the screw-on lids of glass jars to serve as pedestals for the figurines. Then we glued small snow-covered evergreens and snowmen to the foam. (The remaining trees will be perfect for the train set that we plan to build together!) We poured fake snow and Christmas colored glitter into the jars, and then inverted the lids, screwed them on, shook them up, and voilà!

Chinese food was one of her favorite lunches from camp, so we ordered carry-out before continuing on with our craft activities. To the tune of the Addam’s Family theme song we prayed:

“We’ve filled our bowls and dishes – with food that is delicious – you’ve granted all our wishes – God thank you very much!”

After lunch we had a siesta, which was a part of my summer camp experience. Campers would write letters home or read while the counselors geared up for the evening programs. As mom/counselor, I just needed to rest my eyes for a bit.

The next craft was a continuation of something we had started during stay-at-home orders. As I’d mentioned in my post titled “Expanding Time,” my daughter and I went on many springtime strolls and had plenty of time to stop and smell the flowers. We collected and pressed small blossoms that we spotted along the way. I did the same with petals from the Mother’s Day carnations she gifted me. Our craft was to arrange the pressings into small frames. We are both very happy with the results, and they help to shine a light of gratitude on our memories of this pandemic.

Next came wood burning. I bought small pieces of wood for a dollar from Michael’s that are very easy to burn designs into.

Our final activity was making friendship bracelets with embroidery thread and key chains with gimp while watching Elf.

Dinner was unique, to say the least. She had described a spaghetti burrito that I was not so sure about, but she devoured what we made! “ABCDEFG – Thank you God for feeding me!” was the blessing.

Flour tortilla wrapped around spaghetti mixed with butter, sour cream, & shredded cheese.

I have more planned, but some of the activities require the participation of my friend’s children. We were going to run the games at our annual lake trip, but it was hard to compete with the activities that were already available to us: paddle boarding, kayaking, swimming, and floating. We’ve decided to host a day of camp one weekend soon, which I’ll be sure to post as Part 3.

Even though we didn’t play the games at the lake, we were still able to add in the sweetness of S’mores around a campfire and spend some time stargazing. No meteor showers, but we did see a shooting star and were able to locate the comet Neowise! It’s not the best photo, but it’s good enough.

Neowise!

So it wasn’t a week away with a cabin full of bunk mates, but she seems to be a happy camper, nonetheless.

What activities would you plan for a camp-at-home experience?